I think in the hustle and bustle of life we forget to be happy. I know I do. I get caught up with going to work, buying the things that I absolutely need right then (not really), paying my bills, remembering to eat something that’s somewhat healthy, and the list goes on.
We live in a beautiful world. A world that is full of colors and miracles all around us. Sometimes I look around when I’m driving to and from work and see the sky. I mean, could God have created a more beautiful sky? Every day the colors and shapes that the clouds and sun make are just…wow.
Society tells us that being busy is a fact of life, because in order to be happy, you need to work hard and be busy. I’m not saying that working hard isn’t a good thing; it is. I work very hard to make sure that I make enough money to pay my bills and to make sure that I’m doing something productive with my time. However, when that busyness leads to us no longer having time for Christ or ourselves, it has become a problem.
Think about how many times a day you check your phone, whether it be Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, email, text messages, EVERYTHING. It’s kind of sick isn’t it? I’m not guilt-free here. And I’m going to be really honest with you, I don’t know how long it will take me until I don’t do that anymore. But I do know, that it is a problem and it needs to be dealt with.
I get so consumed by checking all these social media and communication that I forgot to look at what’s around me and what I have in my life. I see everyone on Facebook putting the best images of their lives up. And it does get to me. I mean how can someone look good in every single picture they are tagged in and/or uploaded? Then there are the big life moments. Those adorable wedding pictures? The engagement shots? The big diamond rings on their hands? The babies looking just oh so adorable. Right when they post those things, my hair is probably in a messy bun and if I have make up on, it’s smeared because I was getting tired and needed to rub my eyes. My cats are probably meowing at me and I need to clean my house.
When we spend so much time looking at these things, despite the fact that nobody’s life is perfect, you start to believe that there is something wrong with you. We live in a land of “if only” I had this, “if only” I was married/engaged/in love/dating….need I say anymore? We can’t reside there. We have to live in the NOW.
So this weekend, I did something spontaneous and slightly crazy. But it was all for me. I woke up and decided that I was going to go somewhere I wanted to go. I didn’t have a real plan or even an idea of where I would stay, but I did. And it felt good. I realized as I was watching the fireworks in the sky that this was one of the first times I did something for me in a really long time. It was magical. I highly recommend it.
Why don’t I do this more often? Why must everything I do be for other people? Why do I deny myself the things I enjoy just because it doesn’t fit in with the standards and norms that society has inflicted upon me? I can’t change that this is where my place in life is. There are days I wish I had a second income to help with bills, but that is not what God has for me right now. Right now, I need to be focused on me and my current state of life…NOW.
I am in the process of reevaluating my life. Where does my time, money, energy, happiness go? Who and what am I spending it on? It really is something that I need to think about. I think all of us need to consider that maybe we are unhappy because our priorities are mixed up (as Ron says, “She needs to sort out her priorities). Maybe it does mean taking a break from social media and reading a book, taking a walk, doing something that makes you happy and not frustrated. Maybe it means deleting those things altogether and starting new. I’m trying to find people to do this single life with. While I still love my friends that are married and engaged and I still hang out with them often, it’s important that I find other people who are more like me and have the same problems I do.
By having all these friends in various places in life, I get to see the positives of my past and the hope of the future. Isn’t that an amazing thing? My friends, focus on you and your life now. Let’s get out of this jealousy phase and the trying to be perfect phase. We can do this.